i came out 2 years ago [well.....was privately out to a few people and then was outed by a "close family friend" who i hadn't told 🥴] and it is wild to me how much the world has changed since then. couldn't even imagine coming out twelve years ago! thank you so much for sharing your story
This. Feeling this so much. Thank you tor naming it so well and beautifully:
“Queer joy and queer grief aren’t abstract things, but the details of our lives, happening now, and then, now. All we have lost and all we have gained are each big enough to fill up a whole life. So we must become bigger, to contain two entire truths.”
So much lost. So much gained. All intertwined. Here’s to capacity and the expansion it takes to hold it all. 🌈
Thank you!! Although I am not queer I am a disabled black woman who often feels unheard and unseen. Although evidently different to your experiences - I always feel seen and heard in your posts. I love your intersectional approach and that you recognise the nuance of life and how everything IS connected
It's so heartwarming to gradually learn more about you as your comfort grows in sharing your story to all us internet strangers-turned-friends! It feels very much like how any other friendship naturally progresses, starting with a shared interest and slowly deepening over time until you're ready to share the bigger heavier stories.
I have had an affinity to the solstice/equinox cycle of each year even as a kid, thinking that was such a neat thing to learn about, and in the last year or two I've been trying to lean into that more, creating space in my life for getting up early to greet the day on the solstices, being more reflective. Yesterday and today have been grey and rainy where I live, which is a bit of a disappointment when you're tring to watch the sunrise, but it felt nice to still follow through with the practice of getting out to one of my favorite sunrise-watching spots even if there was less vivid of a display in the sky than I'd prefer.
Wishing you and Danielle many more long sunny days in your lives <3
a big day
i came out 2 years ago [well.....was privately out to a few people and then was outed by a "close family friend" who i hadn't told 🥴] and it is wild to me how much the world has changed since then. couldn't even imagine coming out twelve years ago! thank you so much for sharing your story
This. Feeling this so much. Thank you tor naming it so well and beautifully:
“Queer joy and queer grief aren’t abstract things, but the details of our lives, happening now, and then, now. All we have lost and all we have gained are each big enough to fill up a whole life. So we must become bigger, to contain two entire truths.”
So much lost. So much gained. All intertwined. Here’s to capacity and the expansion it takes to hold it all. 🌈
you really have a way with words, Brit.
i am crying in the parking lot of my work!!!!! thank you so much for sharing so much of yourself with us. it means a lot. 💜
Thank you!! Although I am not queer I am a disabled black woman who often feels unheard and unseen. Although evidently different to your experiences - I always feel seen and heard in your posts. I love your intersectional approach and that you recognise the nuance of life and how everything IS connected
It's so heartwarming to gradually learn more about you as your comfort grows in sharing your story to all us internet strangers-turned-friends! It feels very much like how any other friendship naturally progresses, starting with a shared interest and slowly deepening over time until you're ready to share the bigger heavier stories.
I have had an affinity to the solstice/equinox cycle of each year even as a kid, thinking that was such a neat thing to learn about, and in the last year or two I've been trying to lean into that more, creating space in my life for getting up early to greet the day on the solstices, being more reflective. Yesterday and today have been grey and rainy where I live, which is a bit of a disappointment when you're tring to watch the sunrise, but it felt nice to still follow through with the practice of getting out to one of my favorite sunrise-watching spots even if there was less vivid of a display in the sky than I'd prefer.
Wishing you and Danielle many more long sunny days in your lives <3
Oh my goodness, this is a beautiful essay. Thank you for sharing it with us.